Cybersex addiction isn’t necessarily a new problem in the world of sexual addiction. However, cybersex addiction has become an increasingly challenging addiction to overcome. Elements of fantasy and addictive qualities were always present with the usage of cybersex, but now there’s increased accessibility for cybersex addicts and potential cybersex addicts that has seriously amplified this problem. Phone applications such as Blendr, Grindr, and Scruff, as well as already existing sites such as Ashley Madison and Manhunt, increase your risk of addiction if you are someone who is already vulnerable to this type of addictive behavior. These websites encourage and sometimes even promote mentalities that can get stuck in fantasy or that of searching through a people store. They seriously transform courtship and make it seem like it should be easier than it actually is. They even undermine values that people have in their relationships.
How can you tell if your cybersex use is a problem? Not all usage of cybersex is a sexual addiction, yet for many others, cybersex usage can result in serious consequences. If you’re preoccupied with chatting or shopping around on these particular sites, then it could very well be a problem. If you’re in a relationship, does your partner or spouse know about your usage of these sites and applications? Even if he or she does, are you sure that you’re not allowing time to be sucked away by these applications, when you could be more productive? Finally, are you using these cybersex websites while at work? If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, you may benefit from talking to a sex addiction expert. This professional therapist can help you assess this problem and determine if you would benefit from counseling for it.
Smart phones give people an accessibility that they never before they existed. There is increasing research to show that some people are more vulnerable to the addictive qualities of using phones for cybersex purposes. It may be the search itself that is addictive. Or it may be a way of numbing yourself from current stress or frustration at work or at home. Regardless, if you’re wondering whether or not you have a problem with a cybersex addiction, you likely should take the step of having this further evaluated. Thus, don’t wait any longer to further evaluate this problem. Contact a trained sex addiction therapist today to help you determine if this is a problem, and begin treating it if needed.